Here Is the One Resolution I Want You to Make


driving into the sunset
Driving into the next year full of beauty.

Dear Reader,

Did you make any resolutions for 2022?

If yes, how’s it going?

If well, congratulations on picking something that was realistic!

If not well, congratulations on being human!

If not, congratulations on not falling under sociatal pressure to pick a date that is completely random for YOUR stage in life to make significant changes!

January 1st is as good (or bad) a date as any to look back and look ahead.


(And if you still want to look back and ahead you can download the UN-STRESS DECEMBER course right here).

UN-STRESS DECEMBER - mrslaine.pdf



January 1st is as good a date as any to decide to invest time or energy or money in your Self. As long as you do make these investments with or without an arbitrary date and don’t get caught up in the cynicism around New Year’s resolutions.

And whether you believe in a special power of January 1st or not, here is an investment I want you to make in your Self right now. For 2022 and for all the years after:

Stop hurting your own feelings.

  • Stop following people on social media who piss you off.
  • Stop shopping for things you know you can’t afford right now.
  • Stop telling yourself that you suck, are too fat, too slow, too stupid, too scared.
  • Stop neglecting or even ignoring your needs and wants.
  • Stop investing precious time/energy/money in things that you don’t value.

If you can stop hurting your own feelings, trust me, your 2022 will be a whole lot better.

Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.
― Glennon Doyle, Untamed

From my resolute heart to yours,

p.s. if you are ready to invest in your Self, I still have 1:1 coaching slots available. You can book your first free session here and then decide if it’s for you.

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