Guten Tag, Reader,
Have you ever found yourself at a table, not wanting to be there? Silently shaming yourself for not saying ‘no’ to the invitation as soon as it arrived in your inbox? I have.
Or remember when you bought the piece of clothing because the salesperson insisted that you look fantastic in it, even though you didn’t think so. And then you never wore it but were too ashamed to remove it from your closet? I do.
How about the favor your colleague asked of you, and your plate was already full. Still, you agreed anyway and then worked late and resented every minute? Been there, felt that.
Listen, you are not alone. ‘No’ can be a heavy lift for such a small word.
It’s a lot, I know.
NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO: DO NOT allow your inner critic to say ‘no’ to your awesomeness.
There is no shame in saying ‘yes’ when you want to say no. There are, however, lots of reasons to do so.
There is no shame in not knowing what your no's and yeses are, only layers of socialization that made you forget.
Let me know how it goes.
Big Joy,
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